Some conversations are difficult, but they are also necessary. In a recent episode of The Still Waters Podcast, hosts Teri White and Julie Adams chose to address one of these challenging yet essential topics: domestic abuse. Their discussion was joined by Brett Hogland, an evangelist from the South Side Church of Christ in Blue Springs, Missouri, whose efforts have played a significant role in bringing long-silenced conversations about domestic abuse to the forefront, especially within church communities. By sharing his experiences and insights, Brett helped foster a candid and meaningful dialogue, encouraging faith communities to confront and address the issue of domestic abuse openly and compassionately.

How Awareness Begins

For Brett, addressing domestic abuse did not begin with a neatly formed plan. It began with frustration, reflection, and a growing sense of responsibility. Having encountered abuse related situations in multiple congregations, he found himself wrestling with how to respond effectively. A turning point came when Brett was introduced to a book entitled, "When Home Hurts," which prompted him to reevaluate past experiences and recognize missed opportunities to speak up.

One of the most powerful moments in the conversation is Brett's candid acknowledgment of his own conditioning and how cultural, political, and social influences can shape the way we see (or fail to see) abuse. That awareness ultimately led him back to a core biblical principle: giving voice to the oppressed.

A Scriptural Call to Speak Up

Brett grounds his perspective firmly in scripture, pointing to passages like Ecclesiastes 4:1–3 and Proverbs 31:8–9. These verses, he explains, are not passive encouragements but direct calls to action. Speaking up for those who cannot speak for themselves is not optional. In fact, it is central to living out faith.

Equally important is Brett's willingness to name past oversight. Admitting that the church has sometimes failed to see or respond to abuse, he argues, it is not a sign of weakness. It is the first step toward repentance and healing for those that have been hurt.

Creating Safety, Not Secrecy

A recurring theme mentioned throughout the episode is the tension leaders often feel when navigating abuse within a congregation. Teri and Julie emphasize the crucial truth that safety must always come before secrecy. When someone reaches out for help, the priority should never be protecting reputations or avoiding discomfort but rather it should be protecting lives.

Brett echoes this sentiment with practical wisdom. He encourages churches to recognize the limits of their expertise. Just as no one would hesitate to refer a broken bone to a doctor, he argues, churches should not hesitate to involve trained counselors and mental health professionals when abuse is involved.

Addressing the Fear of Outside Help

The conversation also addresses a common hesitation among church leaders: the fear that involving outside professionals somehow undermines biblical authority. Brett challenges this assumption, reminding listeners that many Christian counselors and professionals are both clinically trained and deeply grounded in faith. Seeking help is not a lack of faith, it is an act of stewardship and care.

Rethinking What Domestic Violence Looks Like

Julie brings attention to another critical issue of how narrowly domestic violence is often defined. Brett expanded on this by referencing the Department of Justice's definition, which includes not only physical abuse but also emotional, psychological, economic, and other forms of control. Understanding this broader definition is essential if churches are to recognize abuse when it is happening and respond appropriately.

The Role of the Church in Responding to Difficult Realities

Faith communities must recognize that they are not exempt from facing challenging issues such as abuse. Instead, they hold a distinctive responsibility to address these hardships with honesty and compassion for everyone affected. By prioritizing openness over secrecy and choosing to empathize rather than dismissing, the church can transform itself into a true sanctuary, a haven where those who are oppressed find real support and refuge.